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Q&A: If I get a restraint order on my ex, will it be harder for him to get visitation rights after our baby is born

Question by Voni: If I get a restraint order on my ex, will it be harder for him to get visitation rights after our baby is born
If I get a restraint order on my ex, will it be harder for him to get visitation rights after our baby is born?
Im 3 months pregnant. My relationship with my ex is just NEVER going to function, trust me we’ve tried very hard. He is aggressive, violent, verbally/mentally abusive, started to show recovery of being an alcoholic but went right back, and not to mention that he’s got his priorities all messed up and has already threatened to take our child away after its born.
I want to put a restraint order primarily for my safety and of my unborn child.
Will this also help prove my case in court should he take me there? Would it be harder for him to get and rights on the baby?

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Answer by Betsy
Speak to someone at an abuse shelter. They will be able to direct you on your state laws and any lawyers that may be able to help you free fo charge. To answer your question in most states and in most cases yes, but nto always. Please talk to someone at an abuse shelter or abuse hotline.

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How can I prove to the courts that my husband is an alcoholic & should have limited visitation?

Question by ret340: How can I prove to the courts that my husband is an alcoholic & should have limited visitation?
I am about to file for divorce & NEED to prove my husband is an alcoholic & will put our 3-year-old’s safety at risk. I know most judges will rule the alcoholic can’t drive the child or have him overnight, but I have no proof that my husband is a drunk!
He drinks at his home & doesn’t drive much. He hides vodka in his laptop bag so he can drink at work, but hasn’t been caught yet. Strangely enough, he is a brilliant IT director & very respected!
I know for a fact that he drink around the clock because he has physical withdrawals if he goes without alcohol one day. He physically can’t avoid alcohol in order to have visitation since he gets violently ill, so I know he’ll drink while caring for my son (even if the jugde orders him not to).
Since he has no DUI offenses & hasn’t lost jobs due to driking, what else can I do to prove he is an alcoholic & that he will put our son’s safety in danger?
BTW, he has driven my son while drunk…I just don’t have evidence to show the court.
I’ve thought of calling the cops when he leaves here drunk, but I doubt they will locate him while he’s on the road. They’d have to respond within seconds to catch him driving away.
I’ve also considered hiring a private investigator to track him & get proof, but doubt I can afford it.
Wow, there are some very angry people attacking me! He wasn’t an alcoholic when I met him 10 years ago. The drinking has become a problem the last 2 years.
The reason I am divorcing him is so MY SON won’t have to suffer life with his alcoholic father in the home. I also can’t stop my husband from driving him while drunk!
How dare anyone say I’m the one who is hurting my child. Divorce is incredibly painful for all of us, but in the end I have to protect my child!

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Answer by j_smith_7
A good lawyer is the answer.

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Should a custodial parent, who is denying the court order visitation rights of the other parent, without a?

Question by George McCasland – Dads Rights: Should a custodial parent, who is denying the court order visitation rights of the other parent, without a?
justifiable and provable cause, be required to provide a security bond (cash or certificate), that they forfeit the next time they violate the orders?

With 60% of court ordered visitation violated within the first six months of the order, according to the U.S. Dept. of Health & Human Services study, “Survey of Absentee Parents”, and no government programs to enforce, this could be an effective way to address the issue. Unlike child support, visitation recovery stops when the child reaches 18. And, in today’s economy, judges can no longer automatically jail those who violate family court orders. States are releasing prisoners, without the need for probation reporting, in increasing numbers.

A bond can be in cash or through a bonding agency.
Ruth,
You really should read more of my answers before assuming I’m bias. I drop hammers on father who created their own problems, and I told mothers how to enforce orders. I tell fathers to wait until their children are grown before starting another family. Check my advice to women wanting to marry men with children, or visa versa,

My reference materials are available to anyone.

Finally, I want to make things harder for fathers, not easier, by promoting Bird Nest custody.

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Answer by samworld
I think holding the custodial parent responsible for carrying out the court’s orders is a good thing. Right now the non-custodial parent has almost no rights if the custodial parent decides to deny visitation. My husband had to go through this with his son’s mother. She would change her mind about letting him see his son, not be at the prearranged meeting places, lie about what times they would be home to pick up my stepson. And every time we called the Police Dept. they said to call the Sheriff’s Dept, who said to call the Attorney General’s office, who pretty much said sucks to be you. Sure there are a lot of people who are neglecting their duties as parents, but there are a lot of parents who are basically at the mercy of the custodial parent’s whims. We had to go to court again and have it added to the custody agreement that we could pick him up from school just to avoid dealing with a mother who should be happy that her son’s father wanted to see him as much as possible. Instead she did everything in her power to make us and her own son miserable. Who’s looking out for the parents trying to do the right thing who are getting shafted? Nobody.

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daughter’s father has visitation rights, but he is drinking and doing drugs and I cannot prove it.?

My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

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What can I do if my ex refuses to abide by the visitation order?

My ex has custody of my son, in the court order it states I have visitation for half of the summer vacation period. She is fighting me and refusing to let me have him for more than 16 days. Just before I get asked, there are no drugs, no alcoholism, history of violence, nothing as a safety issue, he has proper accommodations here as well. I just dont have the money to take her to court to enforce it, and by the time i could go to court, I would be unable to care for him due to my schedule.

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Anyone have advice on how to minimize my ex getting visitation rights with my daughter? He’s addicted to meth

He just got out of rehab and he’s trying to persue court ordered visitation. He has one heck of a shady divorce/family law lawyer pushing him to do it, even though he keeps repeatedly saying he is still struggling and is thinking about going back into rehab. I really don’t have money for a lawyer and need ideas about what to ask for in mediation since the ball _IS_ in my court.

Just so you know, if he were still here in state I wouldn’t have such a problem with him coming to see her and things of that nature, but he is on the east coast, and I live in the midwest. I seriously have issues with him taking her so far away!! Any ideas, anyone out there who’s been through a similar situation??

BTW, my ex is pretty impressionable as far as what I say to him buy his lawyer always seems to smooth him over. If he takes me to mediation I really want to make it hard for him.

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When there is no court order for visitation – do you have to let him?

We do not have a court order for visitation or child support – I have just been letting him come over and see our 4 mos old twin girls at my house. He has a drug issue and I will not allow him to take the babies until he at least attempts a drug rehab program. I know he has taken his boys (from his own lips) with him when he picks up his drugs. He shared this before the babies were an issue – so do I have to allow him to see them? or can I hold out until he has the you know whats to go to court? and can he get unsupervised visits if I can prove he is a crack addict to the judge?
Upon receiving the first 17 answers I have phoned an attorney and booked myself on Jerry Springer to pay for the attorney – thanks to the “man” for 2 cents- he only builds my case against them.

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