We have no formal or court ordered custody agreement, only a child support judgement. I have decided that until his father gets professional help for his alcoholism, that I will not allow him to take him from where we live, back to his home. He can only come here and visit with him. If he pursues this in court, do I have a right to request he have only be allowed visitation in my son’s primary home (mine). It doesn’t necessarily have to be supervised, just away from the alcohol.
Aside from his alcoholism, he and I are probably as close as people can be without being together. We both love our son very much, and care for eachother very deeply. I have no problem with him being in my home, thats not the issue, I just don’t want his son growing up around a drunk. I don’t want him to have a lifetime of dissapointments because his father can’t get his act together. He hasn’t been a threat as of yet, but who knows…it can only get worse if he doesn’t get professional help.
Most imporantly I’m not interested in more child support (although it would be nice, $400 a month doesn’t go far when you’re paying for private school). I am also not interested in keeping him from seeing his son. My main priority and concern is protecting my son from what could happen, and how it will affect his emotional well being having an alcoholic father. Other than that he’s a good person, very intellegent, just a drunk.
I’m not interesting in initiating a court case because I’m basically the one calling the shots now and if he’s interested in going against what I am saying, then he’ll have to initiate it. But I’m sure deep down he knows I am right, and wont pursue it because he knows he doesn’t have a leg to stand on.