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Should marijuana be legalized due to our economic situation?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on July 11, 2010

I dont care what you think about marijuana and what it is…
I’m asking if you believe it should be legalized to help out with our deficit. Men lie, numbers dont:

1. 17 billion a year for the Office of National Drug Control Policy

2. 20,000 a year per inmate for keeping non violent criminals in prison

3. 1.7 million people in jail 22 to 33% of these are for marijuana sales

4 11.3% percent of students tried marijuana before age 13

Legalized it would be much more in the sense of alcohol, even though its not as dangerous as alcohol.

The Hemp grown from the stalk could be used for so many different things what people dont know is that big corporations dont want marijuana legalized because then Hemp would be legal and alot of people would go out of business. But so many more good things would happen fo the people of America
I just learned Henry Fords first Model-T ran on hemp gasoline. with our more sophisticated science we cant do it again?
And marijuana grows fast we would be off oil uh oh just put the oil companys out of business

1 acre of marijuana is equal to 4.1 acres of trees for making paper uh oh just put logging industries in the hole
i dont smoke weed i’m an American for real and i care about my country.
I will conclude with this, it is said, by officials in our government that there has been no official marijuana studies when in fact there has it seems that it will take at least 3 more generations to get over the barriers that the government has created in effects to marijuana. I know people who have smoked for 20+ years and all the things that i hear bad about it are untrue.

Whereas the real danger lies in the actual smoke inhalation not the plant. If you inhale any form of smoke you will kill braincells and the government used that to say marijuana kills brain cells when the truth is THC is the only chemical found in a plant that our brain has a receptor for. Our brain sends other chemicals to these same receptors but the use is still unknown.
Thank you all for answering and being logical.

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This is my situation my 20 year old son has been acting mentally unstable what do I do?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on July 10, 2010

talking very vulgarly, loud, demands attention, talks over everyone, speaks of suicide, I have called crisis center and had the police escort him there but he plays it off to the doctors that he is completely normal and has no issues but when he comes back home he acts out immediately. He feels he is hated by everyone. I have 3 younger children and this has affected all of us. Now we are hostile towards him. He is also recently been discovered that he was using meth, Ecstasy, weed ect. I have tried to take him to go to rehab he refuses to go and he was ordered by the court to take anger management classes which he also failed to do. He blames me for all of his problems and takes no personal responsibility. He also has an ex girlfriend that put a restraining order against him and she has been rubbing in his face that she cheated on him so he is threating to cut his throat in front of her to show her how much she hurt him. I called the suicide hotline and the only advice they gave me is he is acting like someone who is on serious drugs and he needs to take care of that problem. He is in complete denial about everything. My options are limited considering he is a legal adult and I can’t force him to do anything. I don’t want to give up on him but I don’t know how much more I can deal with. What are my options for him considering he is a legal adult? help . Mom in desperation.!

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How do you feel about a situation where a baby is born to an out of wedlock mother who has already had custody?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on July 8, 2010

of one child removed and given to the father. She would not abide by court orders after being given nearly two years to take parenting classes, go to rehab and get off drugs, counceling, etc., and was arrested for harboring a fugitive during the time. During these four years after the first child, she miscarried one, and had a new infant. Upon birth, she knows who the father is sure enough to tell friends, but she does not tell the father. She lists “father unknown” on the child’s birth certificate. Should she be allowed to take another child home? What do you think about not listing the father or at least a paternity test? Should our laws allow such as this to happen? She has no steady job, no drivers license, no vehicle, and is currently living with prestigious parents that have thrown her out of the house three times.
She would not consider abortion.

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I need advice on a crazier than normal situation.?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on June 28, 2010

I’ll skip all the details, as much as I can. I’m 25 y/o, been in plenty of good & bad relationships. The situation is right now that out of boredom one day I started writing to an inmate, convicted of robbery due to a previous opiate addiction. We have been corresponding for about 5 months now, and i’ve visited him 3x. He is a good guy, and anyone who has had a friend or family member locked up can know this. He’s clean over 2 years and is getting out the end of december of 2010. I don’t have nay doubt i will keep writing but we both know there ARE feelings there which are getting deeper with each letter and visit. The other hand, I’m dating a close friend of the family. He, too, is a good guy, really has his stuff together, and i care for him A LOT. I know what this sounds like, but you really have to be me to fully understand the situation. I think I started talking to the inmate becuase I wanted just a friend, yet someone who I could talk to that wasn’t going to judge me for past mistakes i’ve made, someone that I could help brighten their gloomy day, etc. I didn’t expect much to come out of it, or much to come out of the “friend of the family” situation. I guess my question is, should I focus on the here and now with the F.O.T.F or should I wait the next 14+ months out and see what happens with the inmate, who i’ve become very close with, and know in my heart that there could be so much more, “once upon a time”? And please, no rude comments. I know what society thinks of these people as it is. I’m not asking for an opinion on him, just what I should do. Thanks :)

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I’m in a extremely hard situation right now and I desperately need advice?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on May 11, 2010

My 9 year old cousin (Drake) is currently living with my husband and I. His Mother (she’s my cousin to) is back in rehab for her crack cocaine addiction she was court ordered to give Drake up. His Father was shot and killed 4 years ago. The only other option was he either came to live with me or he went into foster care and I didn’t want him to go into foster care so I took him in. I’m only 24 years old and my husband is 29. No one else in my family would take my cousin because he’s known to get out of hand at times and to be honest, I really don’t think they care what happens to him.

I need some advice on a couple of things…. Every night before bed I get all of Drakes stuff together for school the next day. I put $4.00 in an envelope in his backpack for lunch. I leave at 5 am during the week for work and my husband puts Drake on the bus. I was doing laundry last night and I found $85 in Drakes pants. I asked him where he got the money from and he said his friend told him he could have it. I didn’t say anything else and when he went to bed I asked my husband what he thought about it and he said that he gives Drake $5.00 everyday for lunch because Drake asks him for lunch money. I told my husband that I already give him money. I’m assuming that this is the money he’s been making off of my husband so I took it. I have not spent it but I’m not going to give it back to him due to the fact that he’s been lying about needing money. I have also decided to start making him lunches so he doesn’t need money during the day. This is not the first time he has lied to us. He stole some of my fake jewelry about a month ago and sold it to another kid at the park. I got it back but he lied about the whole thing.

I received a phone call at work today and Drake allegedly touched a girls private area while playing and then proceeded to punch her in the face when she wouldn’t play along. He’s being suspended for 10 days starting tomorrow. I spoke to the school psychologist and he said Drake needs counseling for everything he’s been through. I agree but we already tried going to counseling and he was literally mute at every visit. How on earth do I handle this? Where do I go? Who do I talk to?

Thank you in advance for any advice.

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I’m in a very difficult situation and I need some advice please?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on May 10, 2010

My 9 year old cousin (Drake) is currently living with my husband and I. His Mother (she’s my cousin to) is back in rehab for her crack cocaine addiction she was court ordered to give Drake up. His Father was shot and killed 4 years ago. The only other option was he either came to live with me or he went into foster care and I didn’t want him to go into foster care so I took him in. I’m only 24 years old and my husband is 29. No one else in my family would take my cousin because he’s known to get out of hand at times and to be honest, I really don’t think they care what happens to him.

I need some advice on a couple of things…. Every night before bed I get all of Drakes stuff together for school the next day. I put $4.00 in an envelope in his backpack for lunch. I leave at 5 am during the week for work and my husband puts Drake on the bus. I was doing laundry last night and I found $85 in Drakes pants. I asked him where he got the money from and he said his friend told him he could have it. I didn’t say anything else and when he went to bed I asked my husband what he thought about it and he said that he gives Drake $5.00 everyday for lunch because Drake asks him for lunch money. I told my husband that I already give him money. I’m assuming that this is the money he’s been making off of my husband so I took it. I have not spent it but I’m not going to give it back to him due to the fact that he’s been lying about needing money. I have also decided to start making him lunches so he doesn’t need money during the day. This is not the first time he has lied to us. He stole some of my fake jewelry about a month ago and sold it to another kid at the park. I got it back but he lied about the whole thing.

I received a phone call at work today and Drake allegedly touched a girls private area while playing and then proceeded to punch her in the face when she wouldn’t play along. He’s being suspended for 10 days starting tomorrow. I spoke to the school psychologist and he said Drake needs counseling for everything he’s been through. I agree but we already tried going to counseling and he was literally mute at every visit. How on earth do I handle this? Where do I go? Who do I talk to?

Thank you in advance for any advice.

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I’m in a VERY difficult situation right now and I really need some advice?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on May 10, 2010

My 9 year old cousin (Drake) is currently living with my husband and I. His Mother (she’s my cousin to) is back in rehab for her crack cocaine addiction she was court ordered to give Drake up. His Father was shot and killed 4 years ago. The only other option was he either came to live with me or he went into foster care and I didn’t want him to go into foster care so I took him in. I’m only 24 years old and my husband is 29. No one else in my family would take my cousin because he’s known to get out of hand at times and to be honest, I really don’t think they care what happens to him.

I need some advice on a couple of things…. Every night before bed I get all of Drakes stuff together for school the next day. I put $4.00 in an envelope in his backpack for lunch. I leave at 5 am during the week for work and my husband puts Drake on the bus. I was doing laundry last night and I found $85 in Drakes pants. I asked him where he got the money from and he said his friend told him he could have it. I didn’t say anything else and when he went to bed I asked my husband what he thought about it and he said that he gives Drake $5.00 everyday for lunch because Drake asks him for lunch money. I told my husband that I already give him money. I’m assuming that this is the money he’s been making off of my husband so I took it. I have not spent it but I’m not going to give it back to him due to the fact that he’s been lying about needing money. I have also decided to start making him lunches so he doesn’t need money during the day. This is not the first time he has lied to us. He stole some of my fake jewelry about a month ago and sold it to another kid at the park. I got it back but he lied about the whole thing.

I received a phone call at work today and Drake allegedly touched a girls private area while playing and then proceeded to punch her in the face when she wouldn’t play along. He’s being suspended for 10 days starting tomorrow. I spoke to the school psychologist and he said Drake needs counseling for everything he’s been through. I agree but we already tried going to counseling and he was literally mute at every visit. How on earth do I handle this? Where do I go? Who do I talk to?

Thank you in advance for any advice.

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I’m in a very tough situation right now and I need some advice please?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on May 10, 2010

My 9 year old cousin (Drake) is currently living with my husband and I. His Mother (she’s my cousin to) is back in rehab for her crack cocaine addiction she was court ordered to give Drake up. His Father was shot and killed 4 years ago. The only other option was he either came to live with me or he went into foster care and I didn’t want him to go into foster care so I took him in. I’m only 24 years old and my husband is 29. No one else in my family would take my cousin because he’s known to get out of hand at times and to be honest, I really don’t think they care what happens to him.

I need some advice on a couple of things…. Every night before bed I get all of Drakes stuff together for school the next day. I put $4.00 in an envelope in his backpack for lunch. I leave at 5 am during the week for work and my husband puts Drake on the bus. I was doing laundry last night and I found $85 in Drakes pants. I asked him where he got the money from and he said his friend told him he could have it. I didn’t say anything else and when he went to bed I asked my husband what he thought about it and he said that he gives Drake $5.00 everyday for lunch because Drake asks him for lunch money. I told my husband that I already give him money. I’m assuming that this is the money he’s been making off of my husband so I took it. I have not spent it but I’m not going to give it back to him due to the fact that he’s been lying about needing money. I have also decided to start making him lunches so he doesn’t need money during the day. This is not the first time he has lied to us. He stole some of my fake jewelry about a month ago and sold it to another kid at the park. I got it back but he lied about the whole thing.

I received a phone call at work today and Drake allegedly touched a girls private area while playing and then proceeded to punch her in the face when she wouldn’t play along. He’s being suspended for 10 days starting tomorrow. I spoke to the school psychologist and he said Drake needs counseling for everything he’s been through. I agree but we already tried going to counseling and he was literally mute at every visit. How on earth do I handle this? Where do I go? Who do I talk to?

Thank you in advance for any advice.

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Moral dilemma – what would you do if you were in a situation like this?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on May 1, 2010

Please note I am not asking what I should do to help, I’m just curious what others make of this as it is a weird situation.

My friend is getting a divorce. He finally served his wife in April after being separated for 4 years. She is a raging alcoholic and mentally ill. For the entire 4 years they were separated she had it locked in her mind that they were still married and would get back together.

She made life miserable for him for the 25 years they were together. She insulted him daily, spent bill money on booze, even gave food out of their freezer away to the baby sitter in exchange for payment so she could spend it on alcohol. She lied, manipulated and turned friends and neighbors against him. She assaulted him on at least four occasions and threatened him with a knife once. He left only recently because his kids are old enough to take care of themselves (he’s attempted to get a divorce and full custody several years ago but she pulled a Jekyll and Hyde and was able to convince the court she was the victim).

Finally things are moving along, but last week she got diagnosed with leukemia. It sounds bad but she is milking it, too. Despite how sick she is and how ugly the chemo is she still continues to call and harass him, saying anything from she’s going to live just so she can clean him out, to if she dies she wants her youngest to live with him but doesn’t want his new girlfriend near the kid. She has also said she wants them to get back together, blah blah. Once again he looks like the monster because he’s divorcing this poor, overweight, sad (and now sick) woman and getting on with his life.

What would you do? She is in the hospital for a month to try to knock the cancer into remission. Either way he’s going to look like the bad guy. Despite all she did he doesn’t wish her harm or want her to die.

Would you have pity for this woman? I know it’s not PC to say but some people just serve no purpose in life other than to make others’ lives miserable. And I am not biased because he is my friend – I have seen for myself what she’s like and her oldest son disowned her because of her alcoholism.

Why is it as soon as someone gets sick or dies they are suddenly a saint?
I think Just Sayin’ just said it best.
They were together for 25 years, married for 20 and have been seperated for four years. He couldn’t get full custody and wasn’t about to leave his kids with a woman who got wasted every day so he didn’t leave. Guess it’s not logical if you’re not in his shoes.

And yes, I do know him well and care for him. He’s been seperated a long time. We now live in different countries but still keep in touch.

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Sticky situation with the ex (involves kids). Need advice please!?

Posted by admin in Uncategorized on April 26, 2010

Here’s the sitaution. My ex and I have 2 kids together, ages 5 and 7. We do not have custody/visitation done through the courts, as we have always been able to work it out in a way that is good for us both. I have the kids full time and he has them when he wants, which is usually about every other weekend. I left him due to his alcoholism. I dropped off the kids with him last night and they called me several times, which they normally dont do, so I knew they must not have been having fun. Then this evening my ex called me and asked me to come pick the kids up because there was something going on. Come to find out, him and his gf were fighting because he was drunk and had been all day. So, I picked up the kids and I wasn’t home but all of ten minutes and my ex called again and said if it was ok that he wanted to come get the kids again in the morning and spend the day with them tomorrow. My problem is, I don’t know if I should let him or not given this evening’s events. True, at least he was responsible enough to have me come get them out of a fighting situation, but he wasn’t responible enough to avoid the situation by just not drinking. He knows how I feel about him drinking when he has the kids, especially since he doesn’t have them all that often. I don’t want them to remember their dad as a drunk (although I’m starting to see that prob can’t be helped). Do I let them go again in the morning or not? I don’t like to tell him no, because I feel that the kids need to see their dad, but at the same time I’m afraid for their safety and don’t want it to turn out the same as it did today. Any advice? Thanks.
I know that his gf will prob be there, so at least if anything happened, she could handle it. But still, it’s just the principle of it all. It isn’t her job to take care of our kids (although there are times I have been so thankful that she was there). And I hate the fact that my kids have to see them fighting. They told me that he threw her stuff out on the lawn, and the whole time she is crying and telling him that she loves him and isn’t leaving….and my kids are seeing all that! I just hate it.

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