Here’s the sitaution. My ex and I have 2 kids together, ages 5 and 7. We do not have custody/visitation done through the courts, as we have always been able to work it out in a way that is good for us both. I have the kids full time and he has them when he wants, which is usually about every other weekend. I left him due to his alcoholism. I dropped off the kids with him last night and they called me several times, which they normally dont do, so I knew they must not have been having fun. Then this evening my ex called me and asked me to come pick the kids up because there was something going on. Come to find out, him and his gf were fighting because he was drunk and had been all day. So, I picked up the kids and I wasn’t home but all of ten minutes and my ex called again and said if it was ok that he wanted to come get the kids again in the morning and spend the day with them tomorrow. My problem is, I don’t know if I should let him or not given this evening’s events. True, at least he was responsible enough to have me come get them out of a fighting situation, but he wasn’t responible enough to avoid the situation by just not drinking. He knows how I feel about him drinking when he has the kids, especially since he doesn’t have them all that often. I don’t want them to remember their dad as a drunk (although I’m starting to see that prob can’t be helped). Do I let them go again in the morning or not? I don’t like to tell him no, because I feel that the kids need to see their dad, but at the same time I’m afraid for their safety and don’t want it to turn out the same as it did today. Any advice? Thanks.
I know that his gf will prob be there, so at least if anything happened, she could handle it. But still, it’s just the principle of it all. It isn’t her job to take care of our kids (although there are times I have been so thankful that she was there). And I hate the fact that my kids have to see them fighting. They told me that he threw her stuff out on the lawn, and the whole time she is crying and telling him that she loves him and isn’t leaving….and my kids are seeing all that! I just hate it.