Posts Tagged feel
I am okay, but my family is messed up. How can I not feel guilty for not wanting to be around them?
Posted by admin in Court Ordered Rehabilitation on May 16, 2011
Question by Crazy_Fool: I am okay, but my family is messed up. How can I not feel guilty for not wanting to be around them?
So I am doing alright in life. Married two kids, stay at home Mom, Some mental health problems here and there but mostly good.
My sister is a needle user(drug user)and has a son. She wasn’t always this way, but she was always messed up. Recently she tried a dry out center and I told her to come and stay at my house during her recovery. She ended up using drugs again right away. I understood that would happen but the lying drove me insane and it was like she was using our home as a flophouse.
Her son has mostly been in my Moms care(and my Dad Too)and he would see his Dad when he was home(he works out of the country). His Dad and I communicate quite regularly and I have shared information with him about how his son is being raised. He gives my sister 00 per month.
My Mom and Dad are both Alcoholics and their business(a small town hotel/bar)is going down the tubes. My Sisters’ sons’ DadPhoned her today and said that he was getting court ordered custody and that he was going to pick him up from my Mom and that would be it. My Mom was very upset and phoned me. I told her I was sorry I couldn’t comfort her but I really did side with my sisters’ ex. My Mom said she knew he had to take him but she didn’t want it to be like this. It is all so unhealthy. My sister is going to be SOL, because her income was dependant on her having custody. I don’t feel sorry for her. My huband and I were willing to help her get back on her feet, but with all the lies and everything I don’t think I can mentally handle it. It has caused me a lot of stress and anxiety. I am also feeling that my mood is changing and I fear that it is because of everything that is going on.
I have always been burdened with trying to fix my family’s problems, but I realize that nothing I suggest or try to do will help them unless they help themselves.
What can I do/think so that I don’t feel guilty about not wanting to be involved? Was I right to tell my Mom the truth about how I feel?
Hi Dede. Thanks for your reply. I am pretty much the only Christian in my family. I have been praying for them my whole life. Not kidding. From the moment I could pray, I was praying. The whole one side of my family has been praying for them too. Prayer is a wonderful thing, but unless you have been through the termoil and struggles that our family has been through(and others like us)then I highly doubt that you know of what you speak. I am sorry if I offend you as I do not mean to.
Best answer:
Answer by Dede
this is a good reason to wake up at night and pray or take sometime and intentionally pray for your family.
Some things may look normal on the outside but has a deeper spiritual meaning…..if you pray, your family will be delivered in JESUS name.
You have tried with your own strength all your life…give it to JESUS now and watch HIM turn things around. Dont give up on family…be wise and deal with them with knowledge.
Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!
Do you feel sorry for drug users who end up in prison and who bashed someone up for more money?
Posted by admin in Uncategorized on July 12, 2010
what happens about the addiction, they will be given no rehab and have to work in prison, do you feel sorry for that person?
How do you feel about a situation where a baby is born to an out of wedlock mother who has already had custody?
Posted by admin in Uncategorized on July 8, 2010
of one child removed and given to the father. She would not abide by court orders after being given nearly two years to take parenting classes, go to rehab and get off drugs, counceling, etc., and was arrested for harboring a fugitive during the time. During these four years after the first child, she miscarried one, and had a new infant. Upon birth, she knows who the father is sure enough to tell friends, but she does not tell the father. She lists “father unknown” on the child’s birth certificate. Should she be allowed to take another child home? What do you think about not listing the father or at least a paternity test? Should our laws allow such as this to happen? She has no steady job, no drivers license, no vehicle, and is currently living with prestigious parents that have thrown her out of the house three times.
She would not consider abortion.
Do you feel sorry for drug users who end up in prison who did a violent crime instead of a rehab centre?
Posted by admin in Uncategorized on June 29, 2010
what happens if they hate it and have withdrawals so hard they want to die? they may die without drugs?
How do you feel about Cindy McCain getting special treatment about drug addiction ,and stealing drugs ?
Posted by admin in Uncategorized on June 26, 2010
She was addicted to pain killers ,and stole the drugs from her own organization.Then to top it off she didnt do any jail time .My guess (and its a very good one)thats because she is rich and she is married to a US senator.If it were you are I ,WOW we would still be in jail.
I’m 25weeks pregnant and I feel completely horrible! My life is completely miserable and I am suicidal. What s?
Posted by admin in Uncategorized on May 7, 2010
I’m 25weeks pregnant and I drink about ten cups of coffee every day and i’m only getting about 2hours of sleep?
is that bad? This is my third pregnancy, and I’ve always been a heavy coffee drinker and since I’m not on my painkillers sleeping pills or my anti depressnts anymore (I had to go through a court ordered detox program at a rehab), I only get about two hours of sleep, which makes me have to drink even more coffee. sometimes, I go up to 50 hours without sleep. I have hallucinations all the time and sometimes I just get so angry that I want to stab my husband, when hes home, of course, because he is! never home and im sure that he is hgaving an affair but he wont accompany me to, the counseling, that I suggested we go to. im so sad and I dont even want to have this baby. uis there something wrong with? me? is this post partum depressan? has anyone else ever felt htis way?
Why do other people feel its their place to tell me how to live my life?
Posted by admin in Uncategorized on April 30, 2010
The majority of people, through the power of the government, have decided they don’t want me to choose to do drugs if I want, prostitute, gamble if I wanted to.
I am a grown man, yet they intend to protect me from myself by taking away the liberty to choose for myself; and If I don’t like it, then I should leave America?
…America was formed on the philosophy of liberty. I have a right to choose, and if I choose wrong then I suffer the consequences… yet many American people believe their tax dollars should go to my arrest, conviction and incarceration for smoking marijuana. So it is not I ‘suffering’ any longer, it is all of America.
The cost to put a single drug dealer in jail is about $450,000, composed of the following: The cost for arrest and conviction is about $150,000. The cost for an additional prison bed is about $50,000 to $150,000, depending upon the jurisdiction. It costs about $30,000 per year to house a prisoner. With an average sentence of 5 years, that adds up to another $150,000. The same $450,000 can provide treatment or education for about 200 people. In addition, putting a person in prison produces about fifteen dollars in related welfare costs, for every dollar spent on incarceration. Every dollar spent on treatment and education saves about five dollars in related welfare costs.
Thats good money the government could instead use to educate people of the United States on the bad effects of drugs, so why not legalize drugs, put them on the open market, and stop the homicides and theft created by drug wars? Or was Nobel-prize winning economist, Milton Friedman wrong?
“The great virtue of a free market system is that it does not care what color people are; it does not care what their religion is; it only cares whether they can produce something you want to buy. It is the most effective system we have discovered to enable people who hate one another to deal with one another and help one another.” — Milton Friedman
“I’m in favor of legalizing drugs. According to my value system, if people want to kill themselves, they have every right to do so. Most of the harm that comes from drugs is because they are illegal.” — Milton Friedman
“If the government is to try and ban private consumption of alcohol and tobacco, it must surely ban such activities as hang-gliding, skiing, rock-climbing and so on. Where should it stop? Rugby? American Football? Ice Hockey? Insofar as the government has information not generally available about the merits or demerits of the items we ingest or the activities we engage in, let it give us the information. But let it leave us free to choose what chances we want to take with our own lives.” — Milton Friedman
Are these not the principles and philosophies of liberty that our nation was founded on?
latj, Liberty is always dangerous, but it is the safest thing we have
Yes, people will end up dead, but that is their choice, they are the owners of their lives, no one else
There are no violent gangs fighting over aspirin territories. There are no violent gangs fighting over whisky territories or computer territories or anything else that’s legal. There are only criminal gangs fighting over territories covering drugs, gambling, prostitution, and other victimless crimes. Making a non-violent activity a crime creates a black market, which attracts criminals and gangs, which turns what was once a relatively harmless activity affecting a small group of people into a widespread epidemic of drug use and gang warfare
I don’t want to live in a society without rules, I wan’t to live in a society without restrictions on how I should live my life. The government has one purpose; to protect the liberties of everyone from anyone else, not to protect ourselves from ourselves
Do you feel young adults should be required to take a class offered by DMV?
Posted by admin in Uncategorized on April 26, 2010
My sister is worried about her son turning 21 .He enjoys drinking but i don’t think he realizes the outcome once you get a DUI.I feel DMV should require young adults to be educated and attend a class before they reach drinking age .I have spoken to several adults that feel this is a great idea.Could you give me your opinion? yea or nay
Recent Comments