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I’m in a extremely hard situation right now and I desperately need advice?
Posted by admin in Uncategorized on May 11, 2010
My 9 year old cousin (Drake) is currently living with my husband and I. His Mother (she’s my cousin to) is back in rehab for her crack cocaine addiction she was court ordered to give Drake up. His Father was shot and killed 4 years ago. The only other option was he either came to live with me or he went into foster care and I didn’t want him to go into foster care so I took him in. I’m only 24 years old and my husband is 29. No one else in my family would take my cousin because he’s known to get out of hand at times and to be honest, I really don’t think they care what happens to him.
I need some advice on a couple of things…. Every night before bed I get all of Drakes stuff together for school the next day. I put $4.00 in an envelope in his backpack for lunch. I leave at 5 am during the week for work and my husband puts Drake on the bus. I was doing laundry last night and I found $85 in Drakes pants. I asked him where he got the money from and he said his friend told him he could have it. I didn’t say anything else and when he went to bed I asked my husband what he thought about it and he said that he gives Drake $5.00 everyday for lunch because Drake asks him for lunch money. I told my husband that I already give him money. I’m assuming that this is the money he’s been making off of my husband so I took it. I have not spent it but I’m not going to give it back to him due to the fact that he’s been lying about needing money. I have also decided to start making him lunches so he doesn’t need money during the day. This is not the first time he has lied to us. He stole some of my fake jewelry about a month ago and sold it to another kid at the park. I got it back but he lied about the whole thing.
I received a phone call at work today and Drake allegedly touched a girls private area while playing and then proceeded to punch her in the face when she wouldn’t play along. He’s being suspended for 10 days starting tomorrow. I spoke to the school psychologist and he said Drake needs counseling for everything he’s been through. I agree but we already tried going to counseling and he was literally mute at every visit. How on earth do I handle this? Where do I go? Who do I talk to?
Thank you in advance for any advice.
My moms an extremely verbally abusive alcoholic- what can i do? help!?
Posted by admin in Uncategorized on May 5, 2010
Ever since i was 13 years old, my moms been drinking more, and more all the while getting more and more abusive to me. My parents got a divorce when i turned twelve and thats when her drinking started. When i was 13, she got so drunk she couldnt remember where she dropped me off at (skating rink) ( she thought she dropped me off at the movies) and left me to walk home (took me till the next morning to get home). She says i remind her of my father and she hates it. She will start huge arguments and trap me, saying i have to either do this or that or I have to pack my bags and move to my dads (who she knows i hate, he is also very abusive) or I have to go to a boarding school. It makes me so angry when she says this, that i end up screaming back as loud as i can. Then she just turns the whole situation around on me as if its my fault im so angry. She hangs up on me, cusses at me, calls me names, and constantly threatens to call the cops. Not too long ago she did, and had me arrested for domestic assault, saying this is “the last straw” or that “she cant handle my shit anymore”. Of course the cops dont listen to a WORD i say about how SHE was the reason i was so angry. Its constantly hurting my social life, self esteem and confidance. Its even causing me to have anger problems with my fianc’e and friends. She constantly tells me im “disgusting” for not wanting to ever go do “family” things with her, when OF COURSE i dont want to when shes so cruel! IS this some form of abuse that she is always trapping me saying either i do this or that or i have to live with my dad, or she will call the cops etc.? if so how can i prove this to someone. Shes VERY good at playing it off to the judge as if im a psychologically impaired teen to the judge, cops, my father, her friends because i get so angry. However its truly the HUGE mental strain that she puts on me that causes me to get so angry. She drinks every night until she passes out (and denies ever drinking). Everytime im in a position to be heard (court, therapists office, wherever) nobody listens to me. They only listen to her and her telling them “how bad of a kid i am”. It has even driven me into a cycle of suicide and depression in the past. The only thing keeping me sane right now (im 17) is my fianc’e and god. I have a feeling this is all alcohol related, but she DENIES her alcoholism (the wost/ scariest kind of alcoholic). Help i dont know what to do anymore, especially since its turning me into a very bitter person to all the people who only want to help me (fianc’e friends). please help
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