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Pros and cons about Alcoholics Anonymous? Is it worth a try or is something else better?

I have been receiving counseling via group therapy for alcohol issues. The counselor (private clinic, paid for by my insurance), is a big time Alcoholics Anonymous supporter and a member himself. At all the sessions I attend, he pushes AA (and NA and CA) on the patients. I’ve been going to group for a couple of months now and have begun to wonder what all the fuss is about, so I asked for some local meeting addresses. I’ve never been big on the “higher power” concept that is prevalent in AA. It’s a big turnoff. I am not religious and it seems like AA is geared towards people who are religious in one way or another, and it really seems skewed toward Judeo-Christian beliefs.

I’ve done a bunch of research on it and I don’t like what I’ve been reading. Is there an alternative to the 12 Steps? I’ve stopped drinking and been sober for 4 months now with really no cravings and very little desire to drink, except in some social situations, such a bars, etc., which I frankly try to avoid right now, since I find them to be pretty boring.

My question is for those people out there that have experience in one way or another with AA. Is is a “cult”? Why do you think so? If you think it’s helpful, why? If you think it doesn’t promote change, or is actually harmful, why?

My treatment is court-ordered and I have reason to believe that my counselor doesn’t think I’ve remained sober all this time, mainly because I’m not active in AA. I get the feeling that the counselor thinks I’m lying to him about not drinking. It is difficult for me to make it to meetings, as I work full time, have a husband who is a full time student and also have 2 dogs that need to potty after a long day stuck in the house. I also take the bus, so getting to a meeting outside my immediate area would take ages. I’ve been doing well on my own, and really am only interested in meeting some people to hang out with that don’t drink alcohol, since so many people’s lives in my area revolve around it and the local bars, etc.

Thanks in advance!
I’m currently in treatment and haven’t yet been to an AA meeting. It’s the counselor that is pushing AA and touting it as a great thing. I’m not so sure when I start reading about how easily they dismiss those who have gotten sober on their own.

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How can I make it clear I do not wish to hear about my estranged sister? My family is haunting me about this

My eldest sister is the original 50 year old drama queen who’s life has mirrored anything like a soap opera. If it isn’t 3 out of her 4 kids being hard core drug users, it’s her own drug use, her husbands alcoholism, lies, theft, police, jail, prison, the list goes on and on and on.

My eldest sister is not only mentally ill, but she is obviously using drugs… which she will never admit too. I am tired. I am tired of all the drama and considering she lives 1200 miles away I hear about it still.. through my other sisters.

I made the decision to remove the drama from my life. I have my own troubles and don’t wish to be drawn down anymore.

Most recently one of my siblings was speaking to me about “helping” the eldest sister and how I should feel sorry for her and forgive her. I said , “I forgaver her long ago” I just don’t want her in my life. I told my sibling that she needs to quit trying to fix something that isn’t hers to fix. How can I make i clear I don’t want
and honestly the stress isn’t good for my own health issues and neither on my husband who has multiple sclerosis. How can I make it clear and I mean it. I don’t want to be burdened anymore?

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Does anyone know where I can find quantitative studies about prison rehab.?

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How do you feel about Cindy McCain getting special treatment about drug addiction ,and stealing drugs ?

She was addicted to pain killers ,and stole the drugs from her own organization.Then to top it off she didnt do any jail time .My guess (and its a very good one)thats because she is rich and she is married to a US senator.If it were you are I ,WOW we would still be in jail.

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A question about addiction treatment…?

I was just wondering whether there are statistics that show facts on whether persons who had spent their time in jail and gotten addiction treatment were really better off when they got out of jail than those who did not undergo addiction treatment.

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How do I go about getting Court Ordered Rehab in Minnesota?

I know the state of Minnesota allows for court ordered Rehab, and I know all it requires are three signatures. I am wondering how I go about getting a court order, how long it usually takes to go through the system, and how I can find out more about this.
I am trying to get a court order against a family member

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I’m 25weeks pregnant and I drink about ten cups of coffee every day and i’m only getting about 2hours of sleep?

is that bad? This is my third pregnancy, and I’ve always been a heavy coffee drinker and since I’m not on my painkillers sleeping pills or my anti depressnts anymore (I had to go through a court ordered detox program at a rehab), I only get about two hours of sleep, which makes me have to drink even more coffee. sometimes, I go up to 50 hours without sleep. I have hallucinations all the time and sometimes I just get so angry that I want to stab my husband, when hes home, of course, because he is! never home and im sure that he is hgaving an affair but he wont accompany me to, the counseling, that I suggested we go to. im so sad and I dont even want to have this baby. uis there something wrong with? me? is this post partum depressan?

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I’m 25wks pregnant and I only get about two hours of sleep every night. Is this okay?

I’m 25wks pregnant and I only get about two hours of sleep every night. Is this okay?
I’m 25weeks pregnant and I drink about ten cups of coffee every day and i’m only getting about 2hours of sleep?
is that bad? This is my third pregnancy, and I’ve always been a heavy coffee drinker and since I’m not on my painkillers sleeping pills or my anti depressnts anymore (I had to go through a court ordered detox program at a rehab), I only get about two hours of sleep, which makes me have to drink even more coffee. sometimes, I go up to 50 hours without sleep. I have hallucinations all the time and sometimes I just get so angry that I want to stab my husband, when hes home, of course, because he is! never home and im sure that he is hgaving an affair but he wont accompany me to, the counseling, that I suggested we go to. im so sad and I dont even want to have this baby. uis there something wrong with? me? is this post partum depressan?

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Question about relatives IN-DENIAL about their drug/alcohol problem?

I have a relative who thinks his drinking/weed smoking is ok. WELL, maybe so; but, he was arrested and has to go to court-ordered classes. He keeps testing dirty for weed and they are threatening him with JAIL and/or in-patient treatment.
QUESTION: If he didn’t have a problem, couldn’t he have PUT ALL THAT DOWN until he finished his court case?
the arrest was for possession during a traffic stop.

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what to do about my homeless ex?

Ok so, me and my ex dated for 3 years. He wasnt homeless at the time, but ill get into that later. im gonna say this flat out, he was an asshole to me. He stole my credit cards, and used them..he used my car without permission usually when i was sleeping, wrecked three of them as well. He cheated on me and was physically and verbally and mentally abusive. i provided him with a roof for alomst 2 years, food and supported his alcoholism, and i took care of his daughter for 3 years as well. I am only 21 and he is 29…we met when i was 18…this is actually quite a long story with alot of details. so ill make it short… He was living with a girlfriend for about 6 months.She kicked him out, so he moved back into his parents house. He was supposed to go to court for a felony warrent that he has, but he didnt go so his parents kicked him out, so he went to a friends house and then HE kicked him out as well. We talked on and off while he was at the last friends house, but he recently got a hold of me on facebook (he was at the library) and told me he was homeless and that he was sleeping under a bridge. Why the hell do i feel so guilty? I cant take him in…i know i cant, and i wont, i just feel so damn guilty, or am i a heartless bitch for not giving him a temporary roof over his head and helping him out? i was crying all day because the thought of him sleeping under a bridge makes me sad, even though he was such an ass to me. His status on facebook was “i wanted someone to talk to but all i heard was silence” That hit me really hard, im crying now as we speak, i dont know what to do. I know he was a f****** ass to me and everyone else, but i need something to make the guilty sad feeling go away, i need some advice. i sent him a long msg on facebook explaining why i couldnt take him in, i told the police i didnt know where he was,(theyre looking for him) and if they catch him over my house, thats big trouble for me, i told him in the facebook email that he needs to turn himself in, then hell have food and a roof over his head…i dont know what to do… :(

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What do you think about Drug Rehabilitation Centers?

Considering 97% of drug users go back to using…but 90% (stat from my personal expierence) of people in rehab are there through court order to avoid jail time…what’s the general opinion…No Amy Winehouse quotes please!

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Thinking about my life and what to do?

So it’s pretty obvious I’m with the wrong guy for several reasons. I would have left a long time ago but two things have held me back:
1) his threats
2) our daughter

He threatens me that he will out me at my job. Some of my personal record/application is not entirely true.
He threatens he will get custody because of my history of alcoholism. I’ve really not drank in a while, but even if I just have A BEER after work, and leave it at that, it’s still something he will use. He’s no better, trust me, he just has a different addiction.
ONce I tried to leave and he ended up grabbing my daughter and running off with her. Cops were involved and things got ugly.

Most times we live pretty co-pacetic (ok, I just ignore him if possible) but recently he lost his job. I already knew he was sort of a loser before, but now this just really gets to me. He won’t look for another, but he still takes my daughter to the babysitter everyday since he “can’t watch her bc he has things to do”. I work and then I still have to pick her up. Today I told him that it was his turn and that we had agreed on that, and he threatened to leave some of my stuff behind (we are in the process of moving) like my mother’s rocking chair.

I do okay, and then something like this sends me over the edge and I realize that he’s a piece of work and I need to leave. So if I just prepared over a few months time and moved things I want out slowly, find a place to live, etc. that would be fine. But part of me is in fear bc of his threats of lawyers, filing for custody etc. I’d like to just take my daughter and RUN away, one day when he’s gone -but his family would never stand for it. They would find me, they would take her, they can hire expensive lawyers and I can’t. There is a lot of course, that I could use against him -but if this got so ugly in court -they could take my daughter away for GOOD and not award her to either one of us.

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What is the Orthodox teaching about smoking and drinking?

An excerpt from:
BASES OF THE SOCIAL CONCEPT OF THE RUSSIAN ORTHODOX CHURCH
XI. 6. The Bible says that «wine maketh glad the heart of man» (Ps. 104:15) and «it is good… if it be drunk moderately» (Sir. 31:27). But we repeatedly find both in Holy Scriptures and the writings of the holy fathers the strong denunciation of the vice of drinking, which, beginning unnoticeably, leads to many other ruinous sins. Very often drinking causes the disintegration of family, bringing enormous suffering to both the victim of this sinful infirmity and his relatives, especially children.
«Drinking is animosity against God Drinking is a voluntarily courted devil Drinking drives the Holy Spirit away», St. Basil the Great writes. Drinking is the root of all evils. The drunkard is a living corpse. Drinking in itself can serve as punishment, filling as it is the soul with confusion, filling the mind with darkness, making a drunk prisoner, subjecting one to innumerable diseases, internal and external. Drinking is a many-sided and many-headed beast. Here it gives rise to fornication, there to anger, here to the dullness of the mind and the heart, there to impure love. Nobody obeys the ill will of the devil as faithfully as a drunkard does, St. John Chrysostom exhorted. A drunk man is capable of every evil and prone to every temptation. Drinking renders its adherent incapable of any task, St. Tikhon Zadonsky testifies.
Even more destructive is ever increasing drug-addiction – the passion that makes a person enslaved by it extremely vulnerable to the impact of dark forces. With every year this terrible infirmity engulfs more and more people, taking away great many a life. The fact that the most liable to it are young people makes it a special threat to society. The selfish interests of the drug business help to promote, especially among youth, the development of a special «drug» pseudo-culture. It imposes on immature people the stereotypes of behavior in which the use of drugs is seen as a «normal» and even indispensable attribute of relations.
The principal reason for the desire of many of our contemporaries to escape into a realm of alcoholic or narcotic illusions is spiritual emptiness, loss of the meaning of life and blurred moral guiding lines. Drug-addiction and alcoholism point to the spiritual disease that has affected not only the individual, but also society as a whole. This is a retribution for the ideology of consumerism, for the cult of material prosperity, for the lack of spirituality and the loss of authentic ideals. In her pastoral compassion for the victims of alcoholism and drug-addiction, the Church offers them spiritual support in overcoming the vice. Without denying the need of medical aid to be given at the critical stages of drug-addiction, the Church pays special attention to the prevention and rehabilitation, which are the most effective when those suffering participate consciously in the Eucharistic and communal life.
Taken from the Jubilee Bishops’ Council of the Russian Orthodox Church
Bases of the Social Concept of the Russian Orthodox Church,
August 13-16, 2000
Copyright (c) 2000 Communication service
of the Department for External Church Relations of the Moscow Patriarchate
Adress: 22, Danilovsky val, Danilov monastery DECR, 113191 Moscow, Russia

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Tonight on MSNBC, I watched a program about prison inmates……………………..?

and their drug addictions. It appalls me that these people are supporting families selling drugs from inside the prison walls, and that the warden says that the prison guards and officials turn a blind eye to their drug use because it keeps them happier. What do you think about that?

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20 fascinating facts about alcohol?

The word “toast,” which means wishing good health, originated in ancient Rome. A piece of toasted bread was literally dropped into wine back then.

- The soil of one of the vineyards in France is considered so precious that it is mandatory for workers to scrape the soil off their shoes before they leave.

– Anyone under the age of 21 should be careful of taking out trash bags in Missouri. If you are under 21 and the garbage contains an empty bottle of alcohol, you can be charged with illegal possession of alcohol.

- The national anthem of United States, “The Star Spangled Banner,” was written to the tune of a drinking song.

- Although “The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog” is considered to be the shortest sentence that includes all the letters of the alphabet, alcohol lovers came up with one of their own “Pack my box with five dozen liquor jugs.”

- Most vegetables and almost all fruits contain a small amount of alcohol in them.

- The first Thanksgiving Day didn’t include mashed potatoes, turkey, and all other foods that we usually eat on this particular day. However, there was beer, brandy, gin, and wine.

- Adolf Hitler was one of the world’s best known abstainers from alcohol.

- Sir Winston Churchill was one of the world’s heaviest drinkers.

- The world’s oldest known recipe is for beer.

- United States has the highest minimum drinking age in the entire world.

- In the 1600’s, thermometers used to be filled with brandy instead of mercury.

- There is a cloud of alcohol in the outer space which is enough to make four trillion-trillion drinks.

- It is illegal to feed alcohol to moose in Alaska and fish in Ohio.

- Distilled spirits such as brandy, gin, rum, tequila, etc. contain no carbohydrates, no fat,s and no cholesterol of any kind.

- A mixed drink that contains carbonated drink is absorbed into the body more quickly than straight shots.

- Abraham Lincoln held a liquor license and operated several taverns.

- All spirits (unlike beer and wine) are originally clear and colorless. The golden brown and other colors are achieved due to the aging process.

- Here is another one we found that relates to Texas: Texas state law prohibits taking more than three sips of beer at a time while standing.

- The BATF (Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms) prohibits the use of word “refreshing” to describe any alcoholic beverage.

So, there you have it, 20 of the 35 fascinating facts that I thought were worth knowing. If you want to see the rest, suit yourself. You will just realize how right I am again. Everyone always does because I am always right.

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What do you think about this – DMX Adopts Pink Prison Wardrobe?

Posted 4 minutes ago by Billy Johnson, Jr. in Hip-Hop Media Training
Looks like Arizona Sheriff Joe Arpaio has come up with the cure for DMX’s addiction to jail. The hip-hop star and repeat offender, like all of Arpaio’s other inmates in the Maricopa county jail, must wear pink t-shirts, underwear and socks.

The girlie wardrobe colors caught DMX by surprise. “This is ridiculous, this is disrespectful,” DMX said with a sarcastic laugh during an interview with My Fox Phoenix. “Why the pink?”

Arpaio told Fox & Friends he has had the pink policy in place for 10 years with success. He said the inmates were stealing the white underwear so he dyed them pink.

According to Arpaio, DMX is serving time for charges of animal cruelty, drugs and fraud. Arpaio did not express any sympathy for the hardcore rapper, adding, that jail was not supposed to be fun.

DMX misses the good ole days. “This is not where I want to be man,” DMX said. “It used to be, I’ll go there, I’ll be the life of the party, and … it’s nothing.”

Requiring male prisoners to wear pink undergarments is emasculating, but listening to DMX talk about going to jail as if it is a hangout spot is not fine either.

Maybe Cam’ron can give X a pep talk. Cam’ron and other Harlem MCs have always been fine with the springtime pastel color.

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how would the average Joe go about getting “ideas” made into laws?

My son got arrested for letting a lot of “minor” traffic tickets that he let go until he finally got a warrant issued and he is in jail for 6 months.
The inmates are released back into the general population with no rehabilitation required or even available. My idea: Since the percentage of inmates in this correctional facility (privately owned) have no High School Diploma (92% at this facility) Why not make G.E.D classes mandatory and require them to get the G.E.D.? Because the percentage of inmates who return to this facility 2 times or more is 73%
how would the average taxpayer voice their idea? I know it would probably be up to a Judge making this part of their incarceration requirements/ I know very little about politics. I would love to know how this aspect of the law works.
Additional details: You see, my son was a high school drop-out couldn’t get a job, got bored…got into trouble, but I know NOW that he was bored in school therefore just quit. He is very intelligent, this is his second time in jail. Can’t get into a college without a high school eqiv., now his drivers license is revoked. His father and I have been talking about his future and how it looks bleek. So, that’s how the idea came about. Because the way we look at it, there needs to be a way to offer some kind of “answer”. (Yes, he was raised right. our daughter graduated with honors and went to college.)
Its just a viscious cycle that I am struggling with. He now knows that he should have listened to us and tells us this, but with no education, no dr. license,,,,,aarrrggggg

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I need to know about requirements to work in a drug rehab center?

Because of a friend’s drug addiction, I have recently decided to have a career in a drug rehabilitation.

I’ve wanted to be an RN for a while, but I’m sure there are other requirements to work with patients in drug rehab centers.

I don’t really need to know the actions of the people and what I’ll be dealing with so much as what the REQUIREMENTS are.

If you know of any links or have any advice, please let me know.

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