Question by Motherhood is cool!: Repost-Child Support was ordered, how did she get out of it.?
For those of you have not read this before here is the situation. My husband waited 8 months before reporting his ex to child support recovery, he could have asked for over 0 a month and medical and daycare expenses but all he asked for was 0 a month in support.
His ex chooses to work only 15-20 hours per week at a job that makes an hour, because if she works more she gets her food stamps and other government funding taken away for herself and her other two kids.
My orginal question was how can she get away without paying child support?
Now for those of you who read this before and called me angry and horrible to want a mom with 2 kids only working 15 hours a week to pay child support, let me fill you in.
She has a live in boyfriend who makes pretty good money, lives in his cousins house, collects over 0 a month in support from her ex husband for the other two kids that she still has custody of, declared her ADD son diabled and gets 0 a month from the state for having a disabled kid. She is on food stamps, medicaid, and low income assistance for daycare and other items, and has said that if she works more than 20 hours a week she wouldn’t qualify for her low income stuff so she shouldn’t have to pay child support.
Also, my husband is a good ‘ol georgia boy who never in a million years wanted to take his kid from his mother. But when the child is late 89 times in one school year, shows up in rags, smells, and the school has to call us because they can’t get a hold of her and she dropped him off with Pink eye and 102 fever and pneumonia and she said she couldn’t do anything with him that day and that she did give him nyquil hoping he would snap out of it and then left him at the school. You are darn straight I am going to be an angry person.
But, my question was how did she get out of paying child support if it was court ordered? How in the state of Georgia do you just not have to pay when she agreed to it, and it is far below what we could have asked for based on minimum wage and 40 hours a week. She is not disabled, and is capable of working, so what gives?
Best answer:
Answer by Cham
It doesn’t matter what other people think. Showing sympathy for her because she only works a few hours a week is just plain stupid. She is a parent, and that forgoes gender. If it were a man they’d be shouting about him being a deadbeat and how he needed to work more hours or get a second job. Well the same applies here. She needs to either get a second job, or work more hours.
You shouldn’t give a damn about the other kids, neither should your husband. They aren’t his responsibility, however SHE has a responsibility to take care of the child they have together.
The reason she hasn’t paid is because she’s violating the order. You need to have the order enforced by either going through the state’s enforcement agency or by going through the court yourself and filing a Motion for Enforcement.
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#1 by Happy-2 on September 8, 2010 - 6:15 am
I don’t feel sorry for her, but I don’t feel sorry for you either. You seem to be trying to make something your business that isn’t. I don’t think there is any single thing you can do about it. This is a matter for your husband to handle.
#2 by Mrs. Heather Schabby on September 8, 2010 - 6:38 am
The thing that bothers me is if you were the mother and you were typing all this about the father, everyone would be on your side. It disgusts me, to be honest with you.
My husband and I have custody of his 8 year old son. He has lived with us the past 4 years. He doesn’t even sleep at his mothers house, only visits there for a few hours each weekend. She pays NOT A DIME in child support.
We choose not to go after her for it because she is a pretty uninvolved mother as it is, and really doesn’t give us ay grief. She lets us raise him how we see fit and she stays out of our hair. We could use the money but we aren’t suffering, so we’d rather not deal with the hassle.
It’s stupid though because if SHE had custody, then the court would be on us without her even asking for child support. It’s such a horrible case of discrimination in my opinion.
Anyway, to answer your question: she got out of child support because the court system is sexiest. If it were your husband he’d be thrown in jail for non-compliance. All you can do is take her back to court and say she’s not paying.
Good luck.
#3 by someonesmsright on September 8, 2010 - 6:46 am
First of all, it doesn’t matter what her boyfriend makes. He didn’t lay down and make this kid so it isn’t his responsibility to take care of it.
As far as your stepchild, it has absolutely nothing to do with you. This is between the two people who laid down and made this kid. If your husband has a problem with the child support, he can take his ex to court and have it amended but you need to stay out of it or you’re going to have more problems that you ever bargained for.
#4 by ouragon on September 8, 2010 - 7:20 am
I don’t feel sorry for her. I’m sure she’s just as big a loser as you think she is. I wonder what your husband saw in her. I would not have had her high on the list of, “Mother for my child.” His choice.
There are rules of which you seem blissfully unaware. Most states don’t assign child support based on how much someone CAN make, they access it based on how much the NCP does makes.
Those other two children, in most states, are factored into how much cs is assigned.
If I understand what you’re saying, you’ve all been ordered back to court about her inability to pay. So after that, you’ll know. If that’s not what’s happening, beats me. It’s unusual.
You brought all that animosity on yourself by expressing your personal distaste for a woman your husband laid down and made a child with. It’s unattractive.
#5 by HATE 2 PAY on September 8, 2010 - 7:36 am
WOW your husbands ex-wife sounds like my ex-wife, she can get away with it because NO JUDGE is going to throw her in jail. and she knows it. All the judge knows is she is a low income mom,she is working the system. what i would do if i were you would be back off of her for about 10 years then hopefully she would have a higher income you could take, or you could play dirty and anomalously call child services on her if she is abusing her other kids, won’t get you paid but it will make you feel better