I have a court order that gives my kids father certain parental visitation times. Generous access and visitations. However my concern/problem is that their dad works away or has courses to do with work or at the moment is in rehab for the last 3 weeks and is no where around when my kids go to their place. They don’t see him and they talk to him on the phone very seldom. It bugs me, hurts me, and I feel is taken away my time I can have with my own children to bond, play, do homework etc. Do I have to let my kids go their when he’s not there? Do I have that legal say? Their father is not around for his parental time which is giving to him. He’s got the parental time not her. They are married however. Its good that she may want to be involved with my kids nothing wrong with that when their dad is around. When he is not why cant they stay with their own mom who has been stable, sane, and whom they have been raised mainly with? My children boy and girl like to go there for the simple fact that she has son they play with. Its always about him. Not her. I don’t know what to do. What kind of person keeps someone else’s kids from their mother and their father is not there to spend time with them? I need advice that is in reference to Alberta Laws
#1 by Can't Stop Smiling! on July 9, 2010 - 6:30 pm
Like it or not she is their Step Mom! They get their time with the kids and how they spend it is really none of your business as long as they are being treated good and being taken care of! He is in rehab which is a good thing when he gets out hopefully he will be there to spend time with the kids!
#2 by Mandi W on July 9, 2010 - 7:18 pm
I have a similar situation…Until you talk to an attorney, I think you’d have to let the kids go to their dads house, even if he’s not there. However, since he’s gone for an extended amount of time, I would definitely give an attorney a call. They’ll usually answer a quick question on the phone for free. Until then, just be grateful (I know its hard, it is for me too) that their step mother wants to spend time with them. Hang in there and good luck!
#3 by Parent on July 9, 2010 - 7:49 pm
I agree with can’t stop smiling.
#4 by SJama on July 9, 2010 - 8:25 pm
If, the kids are happy and the stepmother is not mistreating your kids, what is the problem?
Apparently the kids love going over there-otherwise they would have said, mom dont take us there.
I am sure you want to spend time with your kids, who wouldnt. But the stepmother seems pretty nice.There are plenty of evil step parents. If, this lady wants your kids there while their dad isnt.
Count your blessings sweetheart. That your ex-isnt married to some “heartless” woman.
I really don’t see a problem here. You do have your kids when they’re not over there, dont you?
dont be bitter sweetheart, that only hurts the kids in the picture.
Ask yourself these questions–
Does this woman mistreat your kids?
Has she physically harmed your children in the presence /absense of their father?
Is she a bad influence?