He left me when I was pregnant to smoke dope. I didn’t know where he was when my son was born so I didn’t call him to come to the hospital, so he is not on the birth certificate.
I wasn’t going to ask for child support initially, because I don’t want him to have any custody over his son if he is high on meth 100% of the time he is awake. He begged and begged to meet his son, and when he was 4 months old I caved and gave him the chance… which he blew off to smoke dope.
Now, when I look at my son I’m pissed at him to no end, and I want child support. He doesn’t have a job so I’m not going to get any, but if he ever pulls his life back together he needs to contribute to the life of the child he made. He shouldnt just be allowed to knock up a dozen women while he roams the street getting high all day and night. He has another son in Cali who he walked out on 8 years ago. She filed for child support and he has to pay when he works.
He is not on the birth certificate… and I don’t want him awarded any custody because he’s always high… what are the steps I have to take to prove to a court he’s the Father, and to request he take a drug test if he wants visitation? I’d put money on it that he won’t even show to court. He was ordered to go to rehab in lieu of prison for violating his probation for getting caught shoplifting with dope on him, but he never went, so Im sure there is a warrant for him.
I also don’t have the slightest idea where he lives, so I don’t know how they’d serve him. Last I checked he was homeless and robbing people to pay for hotels so he could sell drugs out of them to have money to use them. What a winner right? His mom keeps me well updated, she and the rest of his fam are just as pissed at him as I am. She is the one who strongly insisted I file for child support.
I can’t afford a lawyer at all. So, I need to figure out what I need to do on my own and make it happen. I know absolutely nothing about how anything in family court is done. I live in Phoenix, AZ. Any advice you could give would be a major help. Thank you!
#1 by little78lucky on July 3, 2010 - 7:56 am
It doesn’t matter if he is on the certificate or not the court will order a blood test to see if he is the father. Visitation and child support are two separate matters if he wants visitation he needs to ask for it and it is then that you state the reasons why you feel he is a danger due to his drug use.
#2 by Bj N on July 3, 2010 - 8:54 am
Just like 78 said blood test
#3 by lea on July 3, 2010 - 9:19 am
it doesn’t sound like you’d be able to get any money out of him. but it wouldn’t hurt to check with the court clerk’s office to see if there’s an organization that’ll give free legal advice. at this point, the case isn’t about you, but about your child, so the court should know someone (or some way) for you to apply for child support.
also, check with social services because they may be able to put you into a program like WIC, or to arrange for benefits for your child. what they’ll then do is put a garnish on the guy’s wages so that, *if* he earns any money, the state will get paid back for what they’ve put out.
i’m not sure about proving he’s the father — you may have to find him & do a DNA test but, again, that’s something that social services or the court clerk should be able to help you with.
#4 by George McCasland on July 3, 2010 - 10:10 am
Apparently it’s easy as 30% of the guys paying support are not the father of the child and were not on the birth certificate.
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