My husband took the classes for domestic violence, went through probation and was released, then free to start all over again. He was drunk went after one child and I tried to protect my child. It was like prison after that awful nasty things he did to me and the kids. He threatened to kill me and I called the police. x-mas eve. The police came 2 hours later , felt sorry for him! Said let him sleep it off. We were really scared after they left. We left x-mas day, never returned. People say leave, protect your kids.. etc. I left with my kids and left everything that I owned. Nothing was joint. Almost 5 months cant get anything except working out visitation to the benefit of the father. The only one he can manipulate is 6. The older ones dont want to even talk to the father. Do you think its fair to throw the little one back into his hands without any protection? All the the websites and stuff out their for help for domestic abuse…is this common?
Zaza, Pea brains? Did you even read the post?
The man has 2 duis, 2 domestic violations, 1 line cutting, no drivers license, 2 teens who dont ever want nothing to do with him, a PPO on him and there is still a chance he might get visitation! The only bad thing he could come up with was saying I was gay. Which was a lie. It was a way to humiliate me more in front of kids and family etc.
#1 by uneekqamar2004 on June 27, 2010 - 3:37 am
I would not trust my child with this man, you don’t know what he’s capable of doing. The news is full of stories of fathers seeking revenge over custody of their kids. He has to either prove that he is stable enough or the visits should be supervised.
#2 by Alan on June 27, 2010 - 4:11 am
It sounds like you need a good attorney.
#3 by xoxoHarlieghMariexoxo on June 27, 2010 - 4:58 am
Make sure that you always put your children first. Talk to 6, do it oh so carefully, not to make him/her hate daddy.
I give you all my sympathy. best of luck from one woman to the next
#4 by Sharon M on June 27, 2010 - 5:26 am
Girl state law sucks and trust i live in california. Do yourself a favor make monitored visits, get into a battered womens shelter just for the legalities ahead. You can’t fight the punk with all the laws protecting daddy these days but men like him make it so hard for real men to get a fair shake. tell the social worker and if they ain’t one get one to monitor visits and the first inappropriate thing he does SLAM HIM press charges and be done with him
#5 by nwnativeprincess on June 27, 2010 - 5:50 am
Documention of any incident will be your best bet to protect your children. Have them make his visitation supervised, so they can see how he interacts with them.
Goodluck I hope things work out for you.
Yes very common, and No not fair.
#6 by myra l on June 27, 2010 - 6:29 am
If you have proof this is going on and your kids saw don’t put the little one back in there. These tings take time sad to say eventually you can fight for your things…Also you did the right thing in getting out there.
#7 by fyinfo_2005 on June 27, 2010 - 6:41 am
I think you need a better lawyer! Take him to court and file a restraining order for you and the kids (PFA – Protection From Abuse). Do not under any circumstances let him have unsupervised visitation. If the court forces the issue, tell them that you will only agree to supervised visitation in a public place. Do not let him put you or your children through anymore hell! Mental Abuse is just as bad as physical, Don’t let him use your 6 yr old to start another battle. Good for you for being strong enough to get way and protect your children! Life will go on, and without him in it, it will get better!!!!