i had my son for about four years now, but it was only a verbal agreement that i start him in school, and lives with me because we live in different counties, she has 2 other children with 2 different dads, a couple years later she got into trouble with cps being drunk and leaving her youngest in the house unintended, unfortunately the cps had to check me out as well for months. they found nothing on me, and eventually the judge awarded me physical custody, she was in and out of rehab twice during the last year and a half, in February she finished her last phase of the court ordered rehab, now she wants custody and hired a lawyer, she said some very bad things about me, however she has no proof of anything.the problem i face is Sense this all was court ordered she was under her best behavior, because the dhs was watching her the whole time, so as far as getting anything on her will be very hard, will the judge look at her past or look at it as she is clean and sober now. i only think she is staying sober until the court is done. i moved farther away from her but within the 100 mile rule. and she is using that as leverage because i never asked permission. i live in michigan. any help would be appreciated.
#1 by Eliza ツ waffle on June 27, 2010 - 9:37 am
Yeah learn how to spell cause you need to be able to if you’re raising a kid, how you gonna help him with his homework?
#2 by iiii on June 27, 2010 - 9:44 am
i dont know any but i am pretty sure there are people who will work with you and go get your kid overseas, legally, somewhat of a vigilante. Google it
#3 by Queen Of Spades--> on June 27, 2010 - 10:22 am
First off you shouldn’t have to ask for permission- she fucked up so its her fault and she doesn’t deserve any say so in where you live.
I can tell you one thing though, don’t go to any courts in Utah- they always favor the mother no matter how awful she is even if there’s all the proof in the world against her.
What you could do is call all the lawyers in your area and her’s- if you do this then she can’t get any of the lawyers you called due to conflict of interest.
#4 by billb on June 27, 2010 - 11:02 am
Get a lawyer. Yes, the judge will take into account her past. Since you’ve already been checked out by state agencies, you shouldn’t have much to worry about as far as that goes. Possession is 9/10 of the law. She’ll have a harder time getting the child back than you should in keeping him. But be on your guard and obtain a lawyer if possible. Your childs future is at stake.
#5 by Kendal P. Greenlee on June 27, 2010 - 11:47 am
Have you started getting character references? Or did the ex-wife already beat you to it. You will need character references from teachers, friends, coworkers, parents of your children’s friends, etc. Again, if your ex-wife beat you to it, it may be difficult so start right away!
#6 by tina m on June 27, 2010 - 11:59 am
Possesion is 9/10 of the law so you have a great start by him living with you. Yes a past like that will be in your favor.
#7 by luv2help on June 27, 2010 - 12:41 pm
You know I found it all depends on the judge. My judge floors me and makes rulings that make no sense to me. However, since the boy has established a relationship with you as a sole provider for four years, I don’t see how they can rip him away from you just because this loser woman finally wants to get her act together. I would recommend supervised visits that gradually lead up to maybe a weekend a month, if supervised visits work out that is.
#8 by Kris on June 27, 2010 - 1:18 pm
Been there, keep a VERY good diary. very detailed from day to day, every contact w/her, everything.
Good luck buddy, for some reason giving birth equate to being a fit parent – just have to prove she is not….
#9 by hunter d on June 27, 2010 - 1:32 pm
Ok..4 the people out there that apparently can not read..the man typed C-O-U-N-T-I-E-S not countries! Meaning the small principalities within a s-t-a-t-e! God!
Sadly, all physical custody means is that the child resides w/U. And in order 4 U 2 move ANYWHERE U do need to get her permission (would b the same if she had custody and moved). So U are wrong there. But as far as her saying bad things about U..now she has put them out there..she will need to prove them. And if she can’t prove them to a judge’s satisfaction..they will get dismissed and she will look like a tool! Make sure that U have phone records (2show how often she has called ur child & how often U have called her about the child or the child has called her), emails, letters, txt mesgs (get them from ur phone carrier..they keep records). And, if U can afford it, get ur child to a child psychologist (actually many states offer free mental health services) and have them give a report on their opinion of the child’s mental state w/u & if they think it will b harmful 2 have him removed from U. If u truly believe that it is not in ur son’s best interest 2 b w/his mom..then U need to get out there & fight 4 him! Oh yea, since she is petitioning 4 custody..U can get free legal aid from ur county. Check it out! Good Luck!
#10 by SIX6UN on June 27, 2010 - 2:16 pm
Iron,
This woman has children by anyone who is handy, right? Right. I recommend that you quietly do a blood test for paternity for the child in the center of this dispute. Let’s agree in all probability that the innocent kid is yours. But, Wouldn’t it be awkward to discover, some day in the future, that all the extreme drama was over a stranger’s child? Don’t get mad, just an idea.