I have been court ordered to give visitations to my children’s father. He is a recovering addict. (Hooked to drugs) He is currently in a half-way house to sober up for the time being. This is his 4th trip to a rehab type program.
I have reason to believe from my daughters mouth that he has touched her.
He doesn’t plan his visitations until the day before visitation so I can’t plan anything for my day until the day of.
He has made me late for work 3 times for not showing up on time for pick up.
He has a violent past against me. I have a restraining order against him.
According to the parenting guidelines in my state he is legally suppose to give me his address and refuses to.
He has taken the kids over to a womans house that we both know has done and sold drugs before.
(His brother took them over there today)
He was suppose to take the kids to church to observe Easter Sunday and did not take them as he promised he would.
He has also admitted that he calls the kids for an excuse to talk to me.
I have spoken with an attorney and he said I could stop visitations but i could get caught with contempt although every thing I have it should get thrown out.
I am trying to protect my kids and the courts here aren’t helping.
#1 by Poor Pearl on May 1, 2010 - 8:01 pm
I think only a lawyer or social worker can give you the legal answers to this question. Although it sure sounds like he has broken all the rules and should not have the rights he is getting. Your children need to come first.
#2 by ♥redrose♥ on May 1, 2010 - 8:32 pm
cant you take him to court to get full custody of your children? with all that info you should win the case.
#3 by sissypunk on May 1, 2010 - 9:24 pm
can’t they have a cop over or something when he does his visitations.
i’m almost in the same situation this abusive guy got me pregnant i got a restraining order on him. he thinks i aborted the baby and i got the hell away from that city it’s almost been 2 years and i havn’t heard from him.
i’m always looking over my shoulder though afraid he’ll come and try and kidnapp my child
#4 by FeatherHead on May 1, 2010 - 9:27 pm
You need to get a lawyer’s advice NOW, in order to protect the children…
#5 by The Real One on May 1, 2010 - 10:02 pm
THIS IS NOT A HARD ONE SWEETIE, IF YOUR DAUGHTER SAID THAT HE TOUCHED HER, CALL THE DERN COPS, ALL THE OTHER STUFF YOU WROTE IS IRRELEVANT, CALL THE COPS WITH THAT INFORMATION AND THAT COURT ORDER WILL BE STOPPED DEAD IN IT’S TRACKS.
#6 by tiny_lil_hottie on May 1, 2010 - 10:07 pm
depending on your childs age she can file an epo against him for touching her…or you can on her behalf but she has to be there when you do. she has to be 15 in most states and you have to witness for her to file. second file a complaint with social services, they will need to talk to her of course but its better than having him violate her.
#7 by older girl on May 1, 2010 - 10:34 pm
with so many violations, you should be able to stop visitation but definitely have the daughter talk to a professional who can document her words. Also, write everything down and document!! This is very important. Get to court asap so you can legally have the visitation stopped. Good Luck and God Bless.
#8 by chell2512 on May 1, 2010 - 11:02 pm
See a social worker for sure and get some legal adivice. What your describing is going on is just “not on”, you need to keep talking to people till you find out a way to make sure he is not able to see her (or you) anymore. Im sure this is a very hard situation for you, and your daughter. Do everything you can to stop this happening, and dont stop untill you and your daughter are safe. I hope that you find a way to sort this out, be strong, and never give up. Get your phone book out and ring councellors, family help lines, social workers, even the police, go to your doc to get a referal to social worker if you have to. Can you get legal aid or something similar where you are from?
#9 by ο κιναδυς ανθροπος on May 2, 2010 - 12:00 am
Talk to your lawyer and take him to court. Then he will likely be forced to give up his paternal rights to them and you need to bar him from contacting them. Document EVERYTHING.
#10 by CHELLE BELLE on May 2, 2010 - 12:34 am
I note some inconsistencies. If you have a restraining order, why is he picking the kids up at your house. And I am sorry, if you truly believe that he touched your daughter, why didn’t you call the police?
I am more than a bit skeptical about your accusations however you really believe this, call the damned cops!!! What is wrong with you woman.