My 16-year-old friend was sent to “intensive outpatient” drug rehab for 4 weeks for marijuana addiction. He was also sent into foster care at the same time for 3 months.
He “gets out” of foster care in 3 weeks on sept 19th.
He says his foster mom is “very anal” and wont let him hang out or call me since im in my late 20′s.
However, he started dating a 23-year-old ‘recovering’ crystal-meth addict whom he found from his drug-rehab group therapy sessions. His foster mom allows that relationship (sleepovers/sex intercourse) but not my relationship with him.
I’ve always been clean and sober.
A wise man once said: “Even prisoners are allowed to make-and-receive phone calls”; however, he says hes not allowed to see/call me until after foster care.
Why doesnt he just end it and dump me instead of playing games? The longer he throws out “hope” the more agonizing it is and it’s breaking my heart.
What hurts the most is that he’s allowed to hang out with other friends (his age) and I know that he could easily use one of their cell phones to call me if he really wanted to.
Again, so why doesnt he just dump me as a friend and remove me from his myspace?
I sent him an email on myspace this afternoon; however, when he logged on he added some new friends but didnt even bother to open up and read my email. So I know he saw my email that I sent and he made a conscious decison not to open it.
Maybe he will read it the next time he logs on, but obviouisly I’m no longer the priority I used to be.
I know that he’s bi-polar, but he’s taking meds to treat it, so he should still show me respect. He also has ADD, anxiety, fear of failure, and is a high school dropout, his parents never married and are split up, and he now works at mcdonalds.
When I went to see him at his work he basically acknowldged my presence for 5 seconds and then wouldnt come out to talk to me. He basically went in the back hiding.
My question is: Why doesnt he just tell me the truth about why he’s AVOIDING me and making himself distant? Why not just dump me as a friend so I dont go through all this heart brokenness?
Obviously, I care about him very much and he’s not giving 2 s*** anymore about how I feel.
He use to call ALL the time before he went to court-ordered rehab (they treatened him with jail) and foster care.
Do you think he will contact me when he “gets out of foster care” next month, or is he blowing me off because he has a new bf or some other reason?
He responded to my email last month, in capital letters, saying he “MISSES ME” and that we should “hang out when he gets out of foster care.”
Why is he stringing me along? I cant take it.
#1 by Dayday562 on April 27, 2010 - 1:54 pm
dude are you gay or something?
#2 by Olf D on April 27, 2010 - 2:39 pm
yea wtf r u a homo?
#3 by ? on April 27, 2010 - 3:18 pm
Here is a better question, why are you allowing this to happen to you? You are able to make choices, and to want better for yourself, so why don’t you?If your best friend asked you this, what would you tell her, well, my friend, you should make yourself your own best friend, and follow your advice. Get your head and your heart on the same page, and do better for yourself.You are not junk, stop acting like you have to settle for second best, when you deserve better. Good luck.
#4 by Donna Dee on April 27, 2010 - 3:19 pm
He sounds like he has quite a few problems maybe you could try ignoring him for a while and see whether that brings him round.
#5 by julez on April 27, 2010 - 3:21 pm
it sounds like ur interested in him romantically, which begs the question: why is someone in their late 20′s going after a 16-yr-old? especially a 16-yr-old drug-addicted high school dropout (but thats a whole other story)
#6 by macy on April 27, 2010 - 3:24 pm
If I were you I would put as much space as possible between you and him, it can only all end in tears.