First off i know you cant make a person want to quit or get help .But there has to be a limit to where as a parent we wanna prevent our children from hitting that rock bottom .i seen a man on a show today say he wont have his 19 year old crackheroinn addicted daughter committedd because it would hurt him and sh would be mad at him. Screw that for me not EVERYONE if the child is that you legal age or not im gonna let them hate me and do what has to be done.what would you do ? Not saying one way is wrong verses another way .
Just a side note a person over 18 can legally placed in rehab by a parent spouse or family member if the person is declared incompatent or a harm to them selves or others or if in the majority of cases there is an underling of self medicating for something like a Dual diagnosis occurs when someone has both a mental disorder and an alcohol or drug problem.
SK its easier to get drugs in prison than on the streets its more profitable..
#1 by Common Sense Is Dead on April 26, 2010 - 11:12 pm
All teenagers hate their parents. I’d rather be hated for helping than standing by and donig nothing while they like me.
of course I would turn them over. I’d turn them over to the police as well.
#2 by Everything happens for a reason on April 26, 2010 - 11:30 pm
There would be a lot to consider, but just in general, yes I would do it.
#3 by Blenderx on April 26, 2010 - 11:44 pm
I would do it. Its for their own good. Better to have the kid hate you than have them od and die or prostitute themselves or rob and hurt people to get high.
#4 by Zorro (Cowboy Casanova) on April 27, 2010 - 12:27 am
aw man I was just beginning to like the hostile q’s. dang it. I am here for DRAMA!!
At 19 since the child is an adult I think you have to be very careful. How can you force someone to go somewhere they do not want to go? Even if it is for a good reason I would worry about it eroding liberties.
there is an old saying:
For every difficult question there is an answer that is simple easily understood and wrong.
#5 by Desperate Housewife on April 27, 2010 - 12:48 am
Yeah I would…It would help them more than me.
I was addicted to pot from when I was 15, and I know thats not as bad as crack or heroin, but it still ruined me as a person, and if my mum ‘forced’ me into a place like that I would be greatful.
EDIT* Solution : You obviously don’t know what your talking about. You had a good answer until you tried to be smart.
#6 by Melyssa on April 27, 2010 - 1:02 am
yes I would. I wouldnt even need to go on dr Phil to ask for what should I do. if my kid gets caught doing heroin/crack, they will be heading to a rehab.
#7 by mlee on April 27, 2010 - 1:36 am
It’s called an Intervention. Dad doesn’t seem to be any help there; probably the problem to begin with…
#8 by Spare me Drama - Woohoo Saints! on April 27, 2010 - 2:09 am
You like this section huh?
I’d let them choose. If they wanna ruin their own life, fine. Just if they do choose that, I WOULD cut them out of my life until they got help.
#9 by ♥ terry g ♥ on April 27, 2010 - 2:31 am
You can try but nothing may come of it. Unless the person WANTS to get better, they won’t.
#10 by Natasha on April 27, 2010 - 2:33 am
i would yes. if it would save their life they could be mad at me all they want. now there are a lot of people on here who swear if they ever found out their teen was smoking weed they would ship them to rehab. that is just stupid and overboard. there is a difference between experimenting and being addicted. if my child tried it once i wouldn’t have them put in anything but if they were truly addicted then yes i would.
#11 by ♥LauraLee♥ on April 27, 2010 - 2:39 am
No I wouldn’t force my kid into anything s/he wasn’t ready for.
With such a thing as drug addiction, the addict has to be ready to come off the drugs. They need to have the motivation and the mental strength and determination.
Forcing them into something could prove to be more of a hindrance than a help.
I would instead try my best to talk them through what is happening, explain why they need to come off it, tell them how much I love them, hathat I don’t want them to die, or get hurt, beaten, raped, mugged etc and try to convince them to step forward and go to Rehab on their own will.
If I couldn’t get through to them, and forcing them would be my very last resort to save their life, then yes I would have to.
#12 by s0LuT1oN on April 27, 2010 - 2:46 am
At 19 the best you can do is have an intervention and hope they want help. If they don’t then there’s no point in rehab, they wont quit, period. I would not support my child’s habit, nor support them while they are on the drug. That may help with the incentive to quit, it may not. But i wont be a party to ruining my child’s life. At 19 your an adult and you have to take responsibility for your own life. Its not an easy question to figure the answer to, but that’s what i would do.
Lol @ the poster above being “addicted” to pot. Its not possible to develop a physical addiction. Thats a classic case of putting on your big boy/girl pants and quitting.
#13 by Sunny on April 27, 2010 - 3:20 am
Yes.
#14 by boystownhotline on April 27, 2010 - 3:54 am
You’re right to want to step in and help your child. Even if they are adults, it’s important for people who care to do what they can, without causing themselves additional problems. That’s why strategies like Interventions can be very successful. Sure it might not work, often times it takes several stints in rehab before they are successful, because like kicking any habit/addiction/lifestyle, it takes repetition and a lot of support. For information on how to conduct a healthy intervention, it’s important you have a professional present leading the intervention. The best places to find such individuals are in treatment facilities that focus on substance abuse. It’s important to remember that when an addict is way deep into their addiction, it’s almost impossible for themselves to pull out of it without support from numerous people/loved ones. Of course it will come down to the individual to decide whether or not they check-in or finish treatment. However, all they need is just a seed of hope or tiny trickle of light to give them the nerve and courage to admit themselves into drug rehab. The reason interventions have a higher success rate than people who check themselves in without support is because they are in a healthy open dialogue with a professional present and with as many loved ones as possible there as well. Each person writes a letter explaining their love for them, the hurt they’ve caused and how much they want only the best for them. On top of trying to help the addict, it’s also important the family members and those affected by the addicts lifestyle seek support as well. Here is the number for family members/friends of addicts needing support, Al-Anon/Al-teen 1-888-425-2666. Also, here’s the number for information and referrals of how to set up an intervention, it’s called Addiction Intervention (available 24/7) 1-800-559-9503. All the best to you!………..Counselor JH
#15 by ♥ SK ♥ on April 27, 2010 - 4:03 am
I’d give them a choice:rehab or jail(since drugs are illegal). Jail would probably help them quit too because you can’t do drugs in jail. Plus you can make them go to jail by calling the police, unlike rehab. No child of mine is gonna be another bum on the street.