Comments on: custody case my son is 2 yrs old will i run into future issues?

By: Marc

Marc — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 10:21:01 +0000

You have no problem with the custody issue now or in the future. At this time the Judge’s order in the court of jurisdiction states that you’re the sole custodian. And that once the 9 month period expires, the mother will have the opportunity to come into court asking for partial custody (I’m sure the judge made the order “without prejudice” which allows the mother to come into court after complying with the rehab requirement. However – you may, based on the information you stated here, think about going to court asking that the mother’s parental rights be terminated. You can do that based on the fact that the mother has made no effort to see the child, communicate with the child or support the child for all this time. Once you’re able to make the case that her rights be terminated, you can have the child adopted into your family by having your wife become his adoptive mother. Then his biological mother will no longer have claim on her biological child nor will she have any responsibility for him or his support in the future.

By: Roary

Roary — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 10:11:56 +0000

I think the 5-7 years old is too young for him to decide whether he wants to get to know his real mother. Make him aware of her, without talking about her too much, from a young age. You are right to separate the biological mother from the mummy, your wife acts as his mother so let him know that she is his mother, though he has another one as well (similar to adopted children). Don’t give his real mother too many chances, give her short, supervised visits when she wants them but make sure he has a stable family environment that isn’t damaged by drugs or alcohol addicts. You sound like you are doing the best for your son, he will appreciate it as he grows up.

By: sidara

sidara — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 09:31:28 +0000

Hey there. So it sounds like you pretty much have it taken care of. Legally you have protected yourself and your boy. Your child is two. Does’nt sound like he cares for the mom anyway so good ridance to her. When he is older, say 5 and up, if he ask’s, just be matter of fact with him. ” Mommy’s not here because she cant be. That’s enough. As far as him resenting you; He may at times, but since he’ll never develop a relationship with her i would think resentment would be minimal, if at all. As you said the judge has given you full reighn. So take it. If you agree to visit’s insist they are supervised for manty year’s to come. If it ever appear’s it’s affecting negativley, stop visit’s. Cross each bridge as you come to it. Your boy is blessed. Hats off to you !! :)